First and foremost let me offer my deepest condolences to the family of Dr Marcus Lim . I wish that they'll have the strength and courage to overcome this devastating triple loss of a son, husband and father. Life will be different, but life will go on.
I saw the news today ("Eye specialist drowns while on diving trip", The Straits Times, 26/10/2009), and I was sadden by the sudden loss of such a promising person. There was so much to be accomplish in his life in terms of his career (he had recently been awarded a National Medical Research Council fellowship by the Health Ministry) and family (he has a 3-year-old son and his wife was expecting their second child). But all these goals will have to be completed by those he left behind.
The news made me reflection upon life, and these are some thoughts that surfaced:
1) Never underestimate the Uncertainty of Life.
People always think that if one is doing something repeatedly, then the risks involved will diminished. For example, if you swim regularly then you can be considered a good swimmer and the chances of you drowning will be lesser. However, 42-year-old Mr Lee Wee Sing, whom is said to be a good swimmer, died after he competed in the swim leg of the OSIM Singapore Triathlon ("42-year-old man dies after competing in triathlon", The Straits Times, 02/08/2009). Similarly, Dr Lim was a competent diver, having had 7 years of diving expereince.
2) Always plan adequately for your family. Never assume that you'll always have the chance to do so.
When one pass away, it is your depedents whom will bear the greatest impact of the loss. Who else is going to care for your aging parents, and to look after the spouse and children that you leave behind? What sort of lifestyle changes are your family going to face? Did you give your spouse the option to spend time with the children to help them overcome the grief, instead of worrying about getting a job fast so as to feed them?
3) Always know where to go for help. Never assume that you'll never need them. Maybe you don't, but someone else you know might.
This article couldn't have been more conicidental. Just 3 days ago there was an article about the Wicare support group, which is a voluntary organisation that serves to help widows and their children ("Lauded for mission sparked by grief", The Straits Times, 23/10/2009). It is important for people know what avenues they can seek help and support from. If Mrs Lim ever chance upon my writings, I would offer to accompany her to Wicare. I hope this helps.
I saw the news today ("Eye specialist drowns while on diving trip", The Straits Times, 26/10/2009), and I was sadden by the sudden loss of such a promising person. There was so much to be accomplish in his life in terms of his career (he had recently been awarded a National Medical Research Council fellowship by the Health Ministry) and family (he has a 3-year-old son and his wife was expecting their second child). But all these goals will have to be completed by those he left behind.
The news made me reflection upon life, and these are some thoughts that surfaced:
1) Never underestimate the Uncertainty of Life.
People always think that if one is doing something repeatedly, then the risks involved will diminished. For example, if you swim regularly then you can be considered a good swimmer and the chances of you drowning will be lesser. However, 42-year-old Mr Lee Wee Sing, whom is said to be a good swimmer, died after he competed in the swim leg of the OSIM Singapore Triathlon ("42-year-old man dies after competing in triathlon", The Straits Times, 02/08/2009). Similarly, Dr Lim was a competent diver, having had 7 years of diving expereince.
2) Always plan adequately for your family. Never assume that you'll always have the chance to do so.
When one pass away, it is your depedents whom will bear the greatest impact of the loss. Who else is going to care for your aging parents, and to look after the spouse and children that you leave behind? What sort of lifestyle changes are your family going to face? Did you give your spouse the option to spend time with the children to help them overcome the grief, instead of worrying about getting a job fast so as to feed them?
3) Always know where to go for help. Never assume that you'll never need them. Maybe you don't, but someone else you know might.
This article couldn't have been more conicidental. Just 3 days ago there was an article about the Wicare support group, which is a voluntary organisation that serves to help widows and their children ("Lauded for mission sparked by grief", The Straits Times, 23/10/2009). It is important for people know what avenues they can seek help and support from. If Mrs Lim ever chance upon my writings, I would offer to accompany her to Wicare. I hope this helps.
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